Yeah, a lot might have handled it differently but
I can't blame the person for coming here for help
either.

I wouldn't have identified the other person
involved, at least not publicly.  And I would
never post this anonymously.

The bad thing about situations like this is that
you never know if you are getting all of the truth
or just bits and pieces.  It's also very hard to
be able to empathize with someone who is anonymous
because you have no idea about their character.