[That still doesn't mean it's "my fault" 
just because someone else has decided to charge 
too much (again, it's like blaming a rape victim 
for wearing a skirt that was too short; flawed 
logic).]

The flawed logic is yours.  Rape, an act in which 
the victim has no consent, is not comparable to 
your implicit consent to pay for the services 
rendered as a result of your bid.  If you did not 
have the time to ask the appropriate questions, 
then it is your problem.  Of course you can talk 
the guy down, but it is still your responsibility 
to pay him.  Secondly, I did mention that it is 
against ebay's seller's policy to grossly 
overcharge shipping.  If this guy is grossly 
overcharging for shipping, then you can make your 
greivance to ebay's safe harbor.


[Yes, it is my RESPONISBILITY to check, 
but THAT is a different issue (confusing the ends 
with the means, my friends). If a seller is 
charging to much, I will pay, but not before 
trying to bring it down first; simply "accepting" 
it is saying it's OK for people to rip you off, 
and it's not. If I can, I will fight it first.]

I never said you should accept excessive 
overcharges in shipping.  What I said was it is 
your responsibility to check the total shipping 
costs before bidding and not to assume that the 
shipping cost will be whatever you think it 
should be. If you do not do so, you are still 
responsible for your bid.  You do not determine 
the shipping charge--the seller does.